I have been thinking
a lot lately about the Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, a book that
I read and recommended in the summer
2002 newsletter. They seem so simple, these Four Agreements. Yet
we can easily lose sight of this simplicity and when we do our lives
become more complicated and less enjoyable.
Here
is a short summary of the Four Agreements (Amber-Allen Publishing; ISBN
1878424319):
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Be impeccable with your word.
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using
the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
- Don’t
take anything personally. Nothing others do is
because of you. What others say and do is a projection of
their own reality. When you are immune to the opinions and
actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless
suffering.
-
Don’t make assumptions. Find the courage
to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate
with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings,
sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can
completely transform your life.
-
Always do your best. Your best is going to change
from moment to moment. Under any circumstance, simply do
your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse
and regret.
To
me, the key to the Four Agreements is communication: clear, honest,
heartfelt. Lack of communication or inability to communicate are at
the center of many of our day to day difficulties. Here are some essences
that can help.
Beyond Words
(Alaskan combination) improves your ability to think and articulate
from both the mind and heart.
Relationship Essence
(Australian Bush combination) helps verbalise, express feelings and
improve communication.
Communication
(Crystal Energy combination) facilitates communication on all levels,
the courage to tell the truth, the ability to listen, as well as to
say what needs to be said in a manner than can be heard.
Chakra 5
(Terre & Cosmos) balances and harmonizes the throat chakra which
is the centre of communication and inspiration.
Complexe 9 - Unité familiale
(Deva combination) encourages communication, understanding and expression
of deep feelings within groups or families.
Cosmos
(Green Hope Farm) helps us speak our truth, opens and aligns heart and
throat chakras; and Snapdragon
(Green Hope Farm) encourages restraint when we talk too much or too
aggressively. These two essences are also available from Deva and South
African.
Bluebell
(Pacific) opens the channels of communication, alleviates fear of expressing
ourselves and being judged. Wallflower
(Pacific) dispels that sense of hopelessness which is often experienced
when we can’t find the right means to make ourselves understood.
Lettuce
(Spirit in Nature/Master’s) brings inner calm, clarity, and the
ability to speak one’s truth.
Owl
(Wild Earth Animal) encourages clarity of mind, intuition, and seeing
and speaking the truth.
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